For all of you who feel a bespoke wedding planner is either too expensive or just not what you're after, DIY wedding organising is likely to prove a cheaper and more suitable alternative. This article takes a closer look at how to begin planning your own wedding and focuses on those people around you who can help turn a potential wedding organisingnightmare into a smooth-running big day dream.
Event management is a tricky task, and wedding organising is certainly one of trickiest of all. However, whilst all the planning and budgeting that needs to be done may seem a little scary right now, you must remember that you are not alone and help will be readily available from numerous people along the way.
From mums to aunties, dads to brothers, you'll find a plethora of people along the way able to offer assistance of one kind or another and help ease your wedding organising burden. But before we go any further, it is wise to mention that bespoke wedding planners may not be as expensive as you initially think. With a range of payment schemes and co-ordination options available, they could prove substantially cheaper than you imagine and, if you are massively daunted by all of the wedding organisation that lies ahead, may well be worth investigating. That said, assuming you've discounted them altogether, let's take a look at those who are available to shoulder the tasks at hand...
First up is your partner. You are about to enter into a long-term partnership based on sharing and equality. Why not begin by taking equal responsibility for planning the Big Day and share all the tasks that lie ahead? Historically, it has been the women who have taken the lead in the planning, but with the advent of the ‘modern man’ it is now much more common for couples to share the burden of Wedding organisation. Sure, there are certain things then only the woman gets to do, like choose the Wedding Dress, but on the whole you will find that most tasks become easier and less stressful if the workload is shared with your partner.
Bridal Party Members
There are others who can help as well. The Mother of the Bride and (less common) the Mother of the Groom, often have many opinions (as I’m sure you will find out for yourselves!) but in most cases they are also more than happy to roll their sleeves up and get stuck into helping out with the planning. The bridesmaids, in particular the Chief Bridesmaid, are also there to assist, and to a smaller extent other members of the wedding party such as the Best Man, Ushers and Fathers of the Bride/Groom may also be willing to chip in. The Roles and Responsibilities section is extremely useful and provides in-depth information concerning what help you can expect from the Wedding Party.
Finally, there are a whole load of resources available to you, from books and magazines to Wedding websites such as this one. Friends ‘who have been there before’ may able to provide useful insights and hints and tips, whilst venue wedding planners and even bespoke Wedding Coordinators, albeit at a cost, are experts at getting you just what you want. The special pages on Wedding Coordinators, within this section of the site, may help you to decide whether or not you wish to go down this route.
In short, help is at hand from all around, you just have to ask.
For those of you wanting to find out more, we've a whole host of other wedding planning articles on our site packed full of expert information and helpful advice, not to mention our online wedding directory that's filled with wedding planners, toastmasters and more.