Q: We're compiling our gift list - is there any wedding gift etiquette we need to be aware of?
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Regardless of whether you've decided to head down the self-managed or professionally managed gift list route, there is one set of important decisions that still need to be made - what gifts will appear on it?
Whilst there is no official wedding gift etiquette you need to adhere to, there are a few points that we'd suggest you pay close attention to when choosing the items that will appear on your gift list:
1. Be realistic and consider your guests.
If most of your guests are average earners, then cramming your gift list full of items that soar well into hundreds of pounds is pointless and, to be honest, is about as far from good wedding gift etiquette as you could probably get. Wedding guests in the UK will on average spend anywhere between £25 and £100 on gifts for the happy couple, so unless you are mixing with the high-rollers pay then close attention to this figure.
2. Ask for what you want, not what you feel you should be asking for.
If the only thing missing in your life is a state of the art home multimedia system then ask for it. Guests are not always at ease blindly handing over a cheque – many prefer to buy an actual gift. However, if guests know they are contributing towards the purchase of a named high-price item, then they will feel much more comfortable getting the chequebook out.
3. Put as many items on your gift list as you can think of.
For a guest, there is nothing worse than asking to see the gift list only to find that either every item has been bought or that only a couple of high priced items remain. It's good wedding gift etiquette to place a mixture of smaller and larger priced items on the list to give your wedding guests an element of choice. If you have set up a formal gift list service with a high-street chain then there is the possibility that you may be able to get a discount on any un-bought items so this strategy is well worthwhile.
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