It is imperative that the Bride and Groom to be keep track of the responses they receive – hence why acceptance cards are the preferred method.
A simple table recording responses is recommended or why not use the free one available within the MyWeddingsday section of the site (our Guest Management Planning Tools are freely available to registered members - it's free to become a member too in case you didn't know!). A table (either hand written or computer based) will allow the couple to record both postal and telephone responses and keep up to date with where everything stands.
If an ‘unfortunately we will not be able to attend’ response is received, and you have standby guests on your guest list it is important that you get an invite out to them as soon as possible and remember to add them onto your reply table. Negative responses may sometimes be accompanied by a gift, so make sure that you have facilities set up to record who gives what – a personalised ‘thank-you’ response in which you refer to the gift direct often means more than a bog-standard bulk thank-you message sent to everyone.
If the unthinkable happens and you lose a response, don’t be afraid to make a phone call to follow it up (again the parents or future in-laws could come in handy!).
All in all, you can see why it is important to give thought to the issuing of invites and the receipt of replies. Hopefully, whether you are the happy couple or a guest at the Wedding, you will now be a little more clued-up as to what’s expected from you.
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