It may seem strange to dedicate a whole article to simply sending out the stationery and receiving replies, but this is often one area that is overlooked and one which can often lead to confusion.
This article should be of use to both the couple and the guests at the Wedding, so to help eliminate any problems, read on...
Addressing the Invites
Traditionally, an invite is sent in two envelopes, (although that trend is fading out somewhat these days) with the outer envelope bearing the stamp, name(s) and address and the inner envelope simply detailing the name(s). Sticking with the traditional theme, the outer envelope would be sealed with the initials of the couple embossed in wax or self-adhesive paper.
All names and addresses on the envelopes can be hand written, but calligraphy does look particularly impressive and it could well be worth having or go yourself, or hiring in a professional to do them for you - give our Supplier Directory a whirl if you want to track one down.
There is no hard and fast rule on how to address the envelopes, but suffice to say that courtesy titles (Mr., Miss, Ms., Mrs.) are used on the whole, although, when appropriate, professional titles should be used instead e.g. Doctor, The Reverend (Priest or Minister), The Honourable (Judge), Rabbi, Professor, Sir, and Military Ranks etc.
Some sources will advise that the envelope is to be addressed to the woman (i.e. Mrs. Thomas Mallendar) even if it is to be sent to a married couple, whilst others suggest that in the same circumstances it should be sent to both with the woman listed first (i.e. Mrs. & Mr. Thomas Mallendar).
The truth is that in the 21st Century there is no right or wrong way to address the envelopes, so do so you feel comfortable – our suggested options are shown on the next page.