A marriage is a union between two families. However, depending what you read, you'd be forgiven for thinking that it's only the Mother of the Bride who has any impact and influence on the day - but this is far from the case. This article takes a closer look at the role of the Mother of the Groom and outlines the duties they may be expected to perform before, during and after the big day.
The Role of the Mother of the Groom
Traditionally, the Mother of the Groom will have taken more of a back seat when it came down to wedding responsibilities, but these days, as wedding planning becomes more of a full time job than a ten minute exercise, responsibilities are being farmed out to all of the wedding party in an attempt to reduce workload and minimise stress for the Bride and Groom.
Depending upon the wishes of the Bride and Groom, it may well be the case that the Mother of the Groom is just as involved in preparation for the big day as the Bride's mum, but we cannot stress enough, it is ‘depending upon the wishes of the Bride and Groom’. With this in mind, there are a number of traditional and optional duties they can expect to be passed their way.
Traditional Mother of the Groom Duties
Let’s first of all take a look at the four duties that traditionally will be passed onto the Mother of the Groom:
Along with the Father of the Groom, the Mother of the Groom will be expected to liaise with the Bride and Groom to see how they wish to go about funding the wedding and offering to pay for certain items along the way. For a heads up on what costs may be passed onto the Groom's family, be sure to check out our 'Who Pays for What?' article.
Standing in the receiving line to greet the guests.
As part of the ‘first dance’, dancing with the Father of the Groom when invited onto the floor.
At some stage during the evening, dancing with the Groom.
Optional Mother of the Groom Duties
As well as the ‘official’ duties, there is scope for involvement elsewhere prior and during the day dependent upon the wishes of the Bride and Groom. Potential tasks which may be passed across to the Mother of the Groom include:
Contacting the Bride’s parents at the earliest opportunity to pass on congratulations and arrange a meet up.
Acting as a source of general advice.
Helping to track down the perfect wedding venue and help search out other product and service suppliers when asked.
Liaising with the Mother of the Bride to help ensure no clashes of outfit occur and that you both look equally as fab!
Helping to organise the guest list by suggesting names (and addresses) from the Groom’s side of the family and passing these onto the Bride & Groom or Mother of the Bride for final decisions.
Keeping track of any responses to the invitations that come your way and informing the Bride and Groom as soon as they arrive.
Potentially making a Mother of the Groom speech.
Working alongside the Father of the Groom and Bride's parents to make sure that everything goes as it should do on the day.
Looking after your son and lending a caring ear when needed.
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