The Matron of Honour (sometimes referred to as the Chief Bridesmaid or the Maid of Honour) is one of the key players in the wedding party. This article takes a closer look at the Matron of Honour and provides ideas and advice on how to choose the perfect candidate for the role.
The Matron of Honour will have a pivotal role to play throughout the day of the wedding, and in the run up to the big day itself as well. From organising the hen night through to being in charge of the Bridesmaids onthe day itself, the Matron of Honor must be willing to assist with whatever tasks are thrown her way (for those interested, a full list of the duties can be found in our Chief Bridesmaid article).
As the Matron of Honour has such an important role to play, determining which lady to choose is not an easy task. Whilst the final decision should fall firmly at the feet of the Bride, the Groom can also have some input into the decision and help determine just who will be the Bride's right hand girl for the big day.
How to Choose the Matron of Honour
To simply pick someone just because you were Matron of Honour at their wedding is not necessarily a good idea. Likewise, to pick a cousin just because you are related isn't always ideal. The key is to pick the best candidate for the job, not just the one that will cause the least amount of hassle.
Of course for some Bride's it may be easy. Perhaps you are really close to one of your sisters, and know you can rely upon them at all times to be there with offers of help and support. Alternatively, you may have a close friend who you've known since childhood and the harder decision will actually lay in choosing your bridesmaids. However, in some cases the decision isn't always this easy.
If truth be told, there is no right or wrong answer, and there is certainly not a rule book you can apply to identify the winning lady. If you are struggling, your best bet would be to draw up a shortlist of candidates then cross-check them against the essential characteristics that any good Matron of Honor should posess (outlined below). Doing this should help to signpost which of the candidates are the most suitable for the role and all of the duties that lay ahead for them. If, after doing this, you are still unable to decide, the only thing we could suggest is to hold an arm wrestling contest and pick whoever wins!
Matron of Honour Characteristics
It is essential that any good Matron of Honour possesses a number of qualities and attributes. Some of the key qualities to look out for in any candidate are as follows:
A caring nature - they'll need to be on hand for the various ups and downs along the way.
Good organisational skills - they will need to be able to handle everything that the Bride and Groom chuck in their direction.
A good listener - planning a wedding is difficult and the Matron of Honor is the ideal person for the Bride to talk to when things seem a little tricky.
An eye for detail and flair - it's easy to overlook things, but a Matron of Honour with a good eye for detail will help to prevent this.
Confidence - the Matron of Honour will need to talk to people she has never met, dance with the wierd chap that the Groom has chosen as his Best Man and perhaps even make a speech, so this characteristic is certainly high up on the list.
Reliability - say no more.
A good sense of humour - from the Hen Night to the Big Day itself, the last thing any Bride or Groom wants is someone whose face is constantly tripping her up, so the Matron of Honour should be the life and soul of the party and definitely not a sourpuss!
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