Getting engaged is a momentous event - it opens the door the next chapter of your life and shouldn't be taken lightly. It's a personal commitment to the one you love, and shows the world how much you care for your partner and that you intend to spend the rest of your days together. This article takes a closer look at getting engaged and highlights some essential points to consider before getting down on bended knee.
Long before any announcements or parties, the process of getting engaged begins. For many, the focus is on the ring and the proposal, but before jumping straight in and spending a small fortune on a diamond band and a flight to Paris there is the small matter of whether this is the right person for you and the right time to pop the question.
OK it may seem a little melodramatic to ask these questions at this stage in your relationship, but let's face it, it's better to do this now than at a later date.
Let's now take a look at each aspect in turn.
The Right Person to Get Engaged To?
For most couples, getting engaged is the precursor to getting married. With this in mind, not only do you need to be sure that the person you plan to propose to is the one that you want to spend your immediate future with, but more importantly that it is the one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Whilst many of you will be sure that this is 'the one', others may not be so certain. If you do happen to fall into the latter category we strongly suggest that before jumping straight in and buying the most expensive diamond engagement ring you can afford, that you take your time and consider whether you really are compatible for marriage.
- Do you share the same values and common beliefs?
- Do you both want the same out of family life?
- Do you have respect for one another?
- Does your partner show you enough love & understanding?
These, and many other questions, will help assess your marriage compatibility and determine whether or not you really can see yourself growing old together.
For more information and advice, including a host of additional questions to ask yourself (and your partner) before getting engaged, be sure to check out our bespoke marriage compatibility article.
The Right Time to Get Engaged?
Far too many engagements fail each year because couples have got engaged at 'the wrong time'.
Whether it's because there are additional stresses and strains outside of the relationship, monetary and financial worries inside of it, or simply because everything has all happened too soon, there are many reasons why things can turn sour. With this in mind, it's important that you take your time and consider all the angles.
At all times, you should never lose sight of the fact that getting engaged (in the vast majority of cases) is a step on the path to marriage. Taking this into consideration, you need to asses whether your current circumstances are 'right' and that you both know and trust each other well enough to commit to this journey together.
If you are sure that this is both the right time and the right person, then go for it. If not, then just wait a little while and see what happens - after all, if really are going to spend the rest of your lives together, what's the rush...
For those of you wanting to find out more, we've a whole host of other engagement articles on our site packed full of expert information and helpful advice, not to mention our online wedding directory that's filled with jewellers, bespoke ring makers and more.
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