Father of the Bride speeches are perhaps the toughest of all the wedding speeches to write. Whilst the Groom can often get away with just a few words and the Best Man simply needs to stand up and crack a few jokes here and there, Father of the Bride speeches need to convey just the right amount of emotion and wit without going overboard.
This article is for all those confused dads out there and will highlight all the key points that need to be covered in Father of the Bride speeches and the suggested order of doing so.
Father of the Bride speeches should always be opened by an introduction. If there's no toastmaster, Master of Ceremonies or wedding co-ordinator to do this for you, make sure you do so yourself.
After the introductions, thank the guests for their attendance, the bridesmaids and groomsmen for their assistance and the Groom’s family for their support. Single out praise for your wife or partner for their patience, and the Groom for finally taking your daughter of your hands!
It is at this point in Father of the Bride speeches that a welcome to the Father and Mother of the Groom, and expression of joy at the ‘extension of your family’ is typically extended.
Before proceeding any further, you may wish to comment about how proud any close relatives who have passed away would be if they could see the Bride today. Where sentiments such as these are to be included in Father of the Bride speeches, we would strongly suggest that you tread very carefully and think about how to phrase things. Remember, that it is to be meant as a compliment, and not an opportunity to open the floodgates.
A few remarks about the wedding, including the build up to the big day and the day itself, could be made at this point. This is the perfect opportunity to make a quick joke about why you are so bald!
Now is the time to turn your attentions to the Bride. Begin by recounting some tales from the past, dating back to when your daughter was very young, right through to modern times. You can crack the odd joke, quote or one-liner at this point, but always maintain the sincerity.
Talk about how proud you are of your daughter and how she has surpassed all your expectations and wildest dreams. This is the really slushy part, so try your hardest not to break down but have a hankie handy just in case!
Daughter-chat over with, now's the time in the Father of the Bride speeches to to focus on your little girl's new hubby. Tell some tales of the Groom from your perspective – both sincere and amusing stories always go down well, but remember that he's now your son-in-law (and his dad’s bigger than her dad!) so you don’t want to cause any offence.
Before the Father of the Bride toast, a mention of your hopes and expectations for the future, your happiness for the Bride and Groom, and perhaps even your desire for future grandchildren, is always a welcome addition at this point.
Father of the Bride speeches should always be rounded off with a toast of health, wealth and happiness to the Bride and Groom. Finish this off with a drink of champers then sit down and listen to the applause ring out!
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