"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."
(journalist and authour, Mignon McLaughlin)
Some people get married to show how committed they are to one another, or because they feel it’s the next natural step to take. Others do it because they feel that the symbolism of a religious service adds to their relationship, or because they think it is the appropriate thing to do before starting a family. Some people do it because they are financially and emotionally secure in their relationship, or because it’s an opportunity to show the outside world how much they love each other. These, and many others, are all valid reasons for getting married. If any of the above reasons sums your current frame of mind up, we'd suggest that you are getting married for the right reasons.
But others, well some get married in the hope that it will force a greater commitment from their partner, for financial or emotional security, or even to ensure control over their partner. These are NEVER good reasons. In fact if you are contemplating marriage and one of these forms part of your reason for doing so, STOP, you probably aren't with the right person. Likewise, if you think that one of these may be the reason why your partner wants to marry you, it’s either time for an honest and open discussion, or to say ‘Good-Bye’ and not ‘I do’!
It may seem to appear a little preachy, but I think you’ll agree that it is better to pause and reflect upon why you plan to get married before hand, rather than do so without thought (and have the marriage annulled 55 hours later - we will not mention any names, is that OK with you Britney?).
Marriage is a big commitment, so before you head down to that jewellers and buy whatever ring you can afford, take a few moments to reflect on what you've just read and make sure that you're getting engaged for the right reasons.
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