We have all been to weddings in the past where the Bridegroom has been too nervous to take to his feet, and others where he's burst into tears in a matter of seconds.
And for every one-word speech where the Bridegroom has stood up and simply said ‘Thanks’ – literally just the one word - there have been other Bridegroom speeches that have gone on for what seemed like hours.
However, when it comes to the bridegroom speeches you'll be pleased to know that there is a happy house in the middle and it is not too difficult to find. This article lets you in on ten key tips for Bridegroom speeches to ensure your speech is remembered for all the right reasons!
TIP #1: With so much to write, it's never too early to start preparing Bridegroom speeches. We recommend you begin at least a month before hand, but ever earlier if possible.
TIP #2: Speak to the other speechmakers in advance of the day to ensure you aren't duplicating any material - this is particuarly important when it somes to the toast as both the Best Man and Bridegroom speeches include a toast to the bridesmaids.
TIP #3: Bridegroom speeches are tradtionally the shortest of the three main wedding speeches - aim to be speaking for around ten and you'll be OK, a little longer is fine too. Anything that's only a couple of minutes in length looks an afterthought so be careful not to sit down within seconds of standing up!
TIP #4: If you are a Bridegroom who's wife has chosen to join him in making the speech, you will need to work together at all times to ensure a smooth performance. If you are to be speaking alone, you should remember throughout that you are making the speech on behalf of the pair of you. Accordingly, Bridegroom speech terminology should reflect just that.
TIP #5: Run your speech past a close friend early in the planning process for their opinion – in particular seek feedback on the length of the speech, its delivery in terms of speed and loudness and your body language throughout.
TIP #6: Practicing Bridegroom speeches makes perfect, so do so at every opportunity - in the shower, as you head to the footy, on the way to work, even as you walk to the pub!
TIP #7: In advance of the day, be fully aware of when the speeches are due to be made - the last thing you want is to be caught off guard.
TIP #8: On the morning have a quick chat with close friends and relatives and ask them to lead the applause and laughter.
TIP #9: Try to grab a bite to eat about fifteen minutes before you are due to speak - this will prevent your stomach from rumbling and help settle any nerves. Of course this won't be an issue if the speeches are to be held after the wedding reception meal, but it's worth taking a note of should you be up prior to eating.
TIP #10: Just before you take to your feet, picture the Bridegroom speech with a smile on your face. Visualise the end of the speech with everyone applauding and imagine them laughing throughout - at the appropriate bits of course!